Parents

Nigel does some of his finest work with parents, many times he both reassures them that  their teen is normal in lots of ways plus he gives them skills and tips to make life easier for all the family. Coaching takes a look where you would like to be (in your relationship with your son/daughter for example) and identifies the gap between there and where you are right now. Once this gap has been identified coaching creates an action plan to bridge the gap.

Coaching for Parents can cover a wide range of issues, some would be:

  • demotivation at school and around the home.
  • communication may have broken down or become very difficult.
  • trouble with the police can provide great strain on the whole family.
  • relationships and friendships that are not what you would want for them.
  • helping them through divorce and separation and the difficult times that creates.

Alternatively you may be keen for your son/daughter to receive some coaching to help them through some issues. As above, the topics could be as broad as the problems people face. Hoever, they may benefit from a specific program Coaching Young People for Success.

Coaching Young People for Success consists of 3 modules designed to assist your child to create an inspiring and personalised career, life and school performance pathway plan – from the inside out.

They will design their own inspiring plan that matches their vision, values and preferred lifestyle and create their own tailor made school performance plan that will include the steps they need to take to maximise their success.

They will complete their individual worksheet by taking the 5 P.O.W.E.R. coaching steps:

  1. Possibilities – imagine the possibilities for their career/life/school performance.
  2. Organised – establish a plan, identify priority areas and set performance goals.
  3. Willpower – assess their level of motivation and develop the willpower to do what it takes.
  4. Emotional skills – identify potential blockers to moving ahead, build emotional skills and learn how to get support.
  5. Results – ensure the results by designing their own action steps and plan.

The modules can be delivered independently or as part of a sequence. They are motivated  to take responsibility for their own life and learning and can be reviewed throughout the year in setting their goals as each step is reached.

The telephone (or Skype) is the way that most coaching is delievered with a weekly connection of about 45 minutes duration. Usually 3 months sees such a dramatic improvement that regular coaching can be scaled back to once a month and then once every 3 months. This isn’t a fixed term thing and things can sometimes happen a lot more quickly. In the case of Coaching Young People for Success the process can be completed in 1 month with a monthly follow up for a period of time. Nigel doesn’t demand a contract or a fixed term and you can cancel at any time.

The best first step is to contact Nigel to talk about your specific circumstances – call him on 0412 971933 or email him here.

 

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Contact Nigel

If you have read through the website and would like to know more about how working with Nigel might help then please make contact  and arrange a time to talk. When you call we can have a conversation about your needs and objectives to confirm whether what we offer is a good enough fit to move forward.

Call or email (using the form below) to take things further. Nigel can be reached on 0412 971933. Thanks and Nigel looks forward to hearing from you.

If you wish to email him directly then the address is nigel AT nigellane DOT com DOT au (attemtping to avoid the spam robots).

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Case Studies

Sometimes it is helpful to read a case study to give you a better understanding of the benefits available when you work with Nigel – here are a few for you to look over.

Peter, Angela and their son Jason (15) Nigel met Peter and Angela about 6 months after they had moved to the area as they were considering moving Jason (their 15 year old son) to a different school. The original move to the area hadn’t gone too well with Jason beginning to show frequent signs of anxiety. As the new boy he had suffered from bullying which escalated into a serious assault.  Peter and Angela knew something had to be done but needed the next transition to go well …. more

Matthew (19) Mum and Step-Dad. Matthew was angry with the world but especially with Mum and her husband (Matt didn’t get on that well with his biological Dad either). He had left school and was lazing around the house, not really putting much effort into looking for a job which created some tension in the home (to say the least). Mum was often caught in the middle between her husband and her son – the two men she loved. ….. more

School and the Pinnacle Program. Generally speaking the school is a good one – well respected in their community for both their academic achievements and their pastoral care. There are disciplinary issues and demotivated students and they were the reason Nigel ran a Pinnacle Program. ….more

Peter, Angela and their son Jason (15) ….. They needed the next transition to go well to ensure Jason’s mental well-being. It was decided that Nigel should meet Jason, with Mum and Dad, at a local cafe (Jason ordered milkshake and chocolate cake from memory). After a short time the parents left and Jason told Nigel his story.

Jason started his new school – cautiously, almost scared, started to make connections which developed into friends. in the early days he would often send Nigel a text message at around 7am to say he couldn’t make it to school – he was just too uptight. A text in reply or a phone call from Nigel never failed to help Jason over the morning hurdle.

In fact Jason never missed a school day through anxiety for the remaining 2 years of his high school education. Admittedly there were some close calls and tense conversations but a confident young man is now able to begin his university life knowing he has the courage to face his issues and win.

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Matthew (19) Mum and Step-Dad …. Mum was often caught in the middle between her husband and her son – the two men she loved.

A passing conversation with a friend informed  her of Nigels’ existence – so she called him. Initially Matthew wasn’t interested in meeting this ‘random guy’ but things got so bad that Mum made it happen.

Matt and Nigel met regularly and gradually a change took place. Matt’s anger became channeled into forgiveness and understanding. In turn this allowed Matt to see himself differently and he began a serious job search. A positive spin off was that he decided he would like a girlfriend – a first for him at 19 years old.

Today Matthew is employed – full time in  a secure position. He owns a vehicle and lives out of home in a shared house with another guy. Nigel gets an occasional text with an update plus he and Matt are friends on Facebook. And I think he’s now on girlfriend number 3 and it’s looking quite serious – he’s back in regular contact with Dad too.

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School and the Pinnacle Program.…8 year 10 boys were selected and after an explanation of the course to the students and letters were sent home to parents, they all accpted the request to join. Over the coming weeks the students learnt how to communicate better with staff, saw how their daily actions affected their long term future, increased their emotional intelligence and the awareness of others. They verbalised their dreams and set some long terms goals. They had fun doing so too.

Not all of them stayed and completed year 12 – 2 left to start apprenticeships at the end of their Pinnacle year. Equally they didn’t immediately become model students and hand all their assignments in on time. But the quality of their education improved, they had greater respect for the school and staff, less time in detention. Staff and parents were all pleased with the progress and outcomes.

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How Nigel Works

On this page we’ll tell you the kind of results you can achieve, the approaches he uses and in what ways Nigel is unique.

Expected Results

  • Schools that work with Nigel can expect a higher level of parent involvement and engagement. A greater sense of a team approach to their students’ education
  • Parents will have a toolbox of practical motivational methods at their fingertips. They will feel empowered and equipped to get their child on the move again.
  • Young people won’t just have a career option but a 1,3 and 5 year plan to make it a reality. Plus a greater understanding of who they are and what makes them tick
  • Everyone who attends Nigel’s seminar about online safety and/or purchases one of his booklets will feel better equipped to face the online challenges of today’s world.

Nigel’s approach is based on:

  • Every young person is precious. From time to time certain young people react negatively to the stresses of life – some say they “do stupid stuff”. Even so, they are human beings of immense value and probably just need an extra arm around their shoulder.
  • Parenting isn’t always easy. in fact it seems that parenting is becoming more complex every generation. “When I was their age…” life was easier (different but not as stressed). Getting help is no longer a sign of weakness but quite the opposite.
  • Society places a (too?) high demand on schools. Of course education is a school’s primary concern but they also need to be social workers, counsellors, advisors and sometimes substitute parents. Teachers are expected to perform beyond their original training – hence the need to bring in outside experts.

Bottom line is that Nigel cares. You are more important than any preconceived programs. They will provide a framework but your unique needs are paramount. You will feel accepted, listened to, valued and served well.

What Makes Nigel Unique?

Nigel’s 20 years of full time work with young people has given him a depth of knowledge of what makes young people tick. Coupled with the fact that he still feels 15 years old on the inside enables him to connect well with young and old alike.

Now that you have a better idea about the results you can expect and his approach, next go to the services page to learn about the specific services and programs on offer.

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